Self-Care: A Strength for Survivors of Abuse

Have you been called selfish for wanting to take care of yourself? Does it feel "bad" to think about doing something just for you? You aren't alone...many women feel that way.

Self-care often gets a bad rap, reduced to frivolous indulgences. But that isn't true! True self-care isn't selfish at all...it gives strength. It nurtures us physically, mentally, and spiritually.

Did you know that even Jesus took time for Himself!

Luke 5:15-16 "The news about Him (Jesus) was spreading even farther, and large crowds were gathering to hear Him and to be healed of their sicknesses.

But Jesus Himself would often slip away to the wilderness to pray."

Self-Care is Especially Important for Survivors

Abuse can leave you drained and depleted. Self-care practices replenish your emotional, physical, and spiritual reserves, allowing you to:

Reduce stress and manage anxiety: Abuse can cause trauma-responses, leaving you with doubt and anxiety. Activities like prayerful meditation, yoga, or spending time in nature can calm your mind and body.

Boost your self-esteem: Betrayal and manipulation can cause you to question your worth. Taking care of yourself reminds you of your inherent value and respect, rebuilding a positive self-image. “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” Psalm 139:14

Connect with yourself and others: Maybe your relationship has left you isolated and you feel alone. Engaging in activities you enjoy, especially with trusted friends, can bring purpose and joy back into your life. “For where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them.” Matthew 18:20

Making Self-Care a Habit

Self-care can feel overwhelming at first. Don't let that feeling stop you because you are FEARFULLY and WONDERFULLY made. Take some time to care for the person God lovingly created - YOU!

Here are some tips to get started:

Start small: Don't try to overhaul your entire life overnight. Begin with small, manageable steps like a 10-minute walk, a short prayer time, or taking a warm bath.

Listen to your body and mind: Pay attention to what your body and mind need. Do you crave a quiet evening reading? Or maybe a workout would energize you? When you have been living with trauma, it may be hard to recognize your needs. But as you progress on your healing journey, you can reconnect with your body and mind. 

Explore different activities: Experiment with various self-care practices to find what resonates with you. This could include journaling, spending time with supportive loved ones, listening to music, or pursuing creative hobbies.

Don't feel guilty: Taking care of yourself isn't selfish, it's essential for your healing. And being willing to take the effort to practice self-care is courageous. One example of biblical self-care is how Jesus prioritized alone time to pray and be with God, to give Him strength to continue His ministry. 

Remember:

Self-care is a journey, not a destination. Some days it will be easier than others. Be kind to yourself and celebrate your progress, no matter how small. And be willing to try different activities as you heal, letting yourself grow. 

By prioritizing self-care, you empower yourself to heal, reclaim your life, and build a future filled with peace, joy, and strength. You are worthy of love and happiness!